Making people mad

[Mikey]

Has anyone had experiences with making people mad?

I recently had a person get very mad at me for telling him I was going to do a caricature of him (as sort of a thank you for inviting me to a party he had). He emailed me and said that he thought it was an invasion of privacy and if I went ahead and did it I could forget about ever being invited again! I thought he was kidding, but I went and asked him about it and he wasn't! I didn't even draw him, I just said I was going to and asked him to let me take his picture for reference.

He previously had commented very favorably on others I had done and so the whole thing has puzzzled me greatly.

Do you think you should get permisssion to do peoples caricatures? Has anyone had similar experiences?

Mikey

[toonMom]

This sounds very strange! I could see if you had done a drawing that offended him or if your drawings were offensive, which I find them quite the opposite. I have never heard of such a thing! Very interesting.

[corky]

Mikey, your experience isn't that unusual to me. I had a good friend years ago (since moved away, don't have contact anymore) who got quite upset when I offered to do a caricature as a gift. She said she'd be very offended if I drew her, since she "knew" I'd draw her nose (which was large) very exaggerated. I explained that I meant as a compliment, since I knew her so well, and I wanted to bring out her very expressive personality. She made it clear that I was not to do it, under any circumstances. So, you will meet people who just don't understand the nature of a caricature, and their ego just won't handle seeing themselves as a caricature. They are very insecure people, and there's really nothing you can do to change their mind. Rather than seeing the value of something personal and unique, all they see is an insult to their fragile view of themselves. Fortunately, I've drawn other friends and family who laugh outrageously, and recognize that I'm drawing something from my heart. Just pass this guy off as insecure and continue drawing!
;D

[dedder]

So, you will meet people who just don't understand the nature of a caricature, and their ego just won't handle seeing themselves as a caricature. They are very insecure people, and there's really nothing you can do to change their mind. Rather than seeing the value of something personal and unique, all they see is an insult to their fragile view of themselves.

That's the whole thing to it ! I couldn't say any better!

[dmcaricature]

A fellow at work has the best face to caricature. Huge nose big eyes great shaped face. In short a caricaturists dream. I did one of him a while back, and the response was not favourable . Since that time I have created a few masterpieces of Ralph only for my own satisfaction. I would not show because I know what the response would be. So yes it is about insecurity. If we cannot laugh at ourselves? and recognize our own imperfections
and irregularities, how then can we relate to others effectively?

[dedder]

I'm lucky to be blessed with a georgeous face. ;D
But I understand these people.Sad but true.But I would not draw them, I look for others,who DO appreciate what I do

[corky]

Even though I made the comment about insecure people, I have to admit I was one of those. Until I posted my picture on this board, and saw what great cartoons others were drawing. And I realized that they were truly funny, and I'm no beauty queen anyway! (I've not blessed with a gorgeous face like Hans...but then, it might look a bit odd to see Hans' face with my stumpy body!).
And there's one person in my life (my husband)who thinks I'm the most beautiful woman who ever walked on the face of the earth. He's getting his new bifocals next week!